1. Ignore Santa (and all the screaming children around him) at the mall.
2. Throw out the Pottery Barn Kids catalog.
3. Don’t let your husband/partner/family buy gifts for the baby that is not conceived yet.
4. Ignore Aunt Betty asking when you will be having kids.
5. Don’t watch sappy holiday movies about adorable families (or puppies).
6. Eat. Drink. Be Merry. (Make yourself merry by attending, or NOT, holiday gatherings).
7. Be prepared for pregnancy announcements (probably from your close friends and family since they surely are more fertile because you are trying.)
8. Seek out time with childless friends. Remember you are not alone – there are millions of couples going through the struggle to build their own family.
9. Ignore Aunt Betty asking when you will be having kids (again).
10. Just throw out all those cute baby Holiday cards from your friends – in fact, don’t even open them!
Holiday parties and family gatherings can be a wonderful part of the holiday season but can be very stressful for those trying to build a family of their own. Be true to yourself and do what is right for you – go to the parties and lie to Aunt Betty or avoid them all together (the flu is common at this time of year!). A last minute getaway for the holidays to avoid the entire family scene is always an option. If you feel that you are spending a significant amount of time sad please call your doctor or seek out a local counselor and remember you are not alone.
Dr. Beth Malizia is a Reproductive Endocrinologist and Infertility Specialist from Brookwood Baptist Medical Center.